Why love hurts - Eva Illouz - John Wiley & Sons Inc. - Poche - Etude

A new book by the award-winnning sociologist Eva Illouz on modern love. Sets out to explain why love is such a painful experience for many people - why we invest so much in the search for love and why it so often disappoints us. Few of us have been spared the agonies of intimate relationships. They come in many shapes: loving a man or a woman who will not commit to us, being heartbroken when we're abandoned by a lover, engaging in Sisyphean internet searches, coming back lonely from bars, parties, or blind dates, feeling bored in a relationship that is so much less than we had envisaged - these are only some of the ways in which the search for love is a difficult and often painful experience. Despite the widespread and almost collective character of these experiences, our culture insists they are the result of faulty or insufficiently mature psyches. For many, the Freudian idea that the family designs the pattern of an individual's erotic career has been the main explanation for why an